Sunday, July 18, 2010
He Hasn't Asked You Yet?
Women have always been expected to marry. Marriage was even used to keep the peace between two countries. If one king wanted to please another he would offer a marriage proposal between his daughter and the other king's son. This is what happened with Henry V and Kathrine of Aragon. Unfortunately, this marriage did not work out so well.
Marrilee was also meant to provide stability for women. You wanted to find a man that will take care of you, and many people are still looking for that kind of security out of a marriage. The divorce rate is this country is very high, and most likely many people are getting married for the wrong reasons, like money.
Temporary Assistance To Needy Families (TANF) is a welfare reform act that works to help poor families rise out of poverty. This was done by encouraging work and marriage in the family. Work is necessary to get out of poverty, but why suggest marriage? Marriage was thought to bring security, but that is not always the case. The family just become dependent on the marriage, and most of the time the husband to bring home the bacon. By the government shifts from political and economic concerns to social ones they keep the "cycle of dependence" in orbit.
Marriage is not a secure way to ensure economic safety, and it should not be used as a method to avoid finical strain or to cure it. Marriage is not something that should be used as a means to an end, and we would all do well to remember it!